Over the years I have come to realize that not everyone values what I value – not even my own children. If we’re honest, I think we would realize that there isn’t a soul on the planet that values the same things as another person – not even my own wife! The goal of every marriage is to equally value the most important things and then seek to understand our differences. The Bible states that we should be yoked equally – especially when it comes to the most important values.
This certainly doesn’t merely apply to marriage. Everyone needs to be in community with those who value the same major things. If you have ever been in a relationship (business partnership, friendship, housing, etc.) where...
Why do pessimists seem to self-label themselves as realists? What does that mean for those who tend toward optimism? Are optimists merely fantasizers? Are optimists more or less likely to be filled with joy? Is a pessimist less likely to be joyful?
The fact is that dreamers tend to be joyful when they have a hope of a better future. However, when that hope is lost, they tend to slide into deeper depression than a pragmatic realist. Realists tend not to appear joyful about the future but can find more joy in their present situation. Most of us are somewhere on the continuum of realism and hope which forces us to work out our faith in the tension of these two concepts.